The obvious will make its presence known

Dear Miss Kitty,
I met a guy a few weeks ago and we are spending quite a bit of time together. I am taking it easy and he seems like he’s rushing things a bit. Nothing that I can’t handle, but I wonder why? Most of my dating life, it has been the other way around. Do you think there is something weird going on? Should I ask him why he is so in to me?
K.K. Santa Barbara


Dear K.K,
Sweet white ducks gently paddling around on the calm surface of a pond can be weird if we want them to be. Swimming around in not so random patterns, we can wonder as to their methods and madness. When one after another decides to swiftly fly away we can wonder as to what made them leave in such a hurry? Do ducks really have to be anywhere?

Making sense of things - or trying to anyway - now supplants baseball as the great American pastime. There is always a friend, a chat line or a random stranger that will help us to peruse the peruse-able and just about anything can be put under a microscope for a closer look. Like a cat on the bed, looking at un-see-able specters, we force a desire to see what isn’t always there. Is this scrutiny really needed to allow our intuition to make a call? Could we let what we can’t understand remain just that: not explainable for now? Do we really need to pay Esmeralda forty bucks to know all and see all?

Projecting names and theories to what is new, difficult, or plain-old mysterious makes us feel safe. Information, even if it is incorrect, gives us a road map in which to make future steps. But how can the future, the definition of guesswork ever be 100% reliable? It can’t - and put those names and theory anywhere near a microscope and what emerges is usually just more questions, and opportunities for mis-steps to come.

Darling K.K. Boys and Girls, in the beginning of a relationship, all bets are off as to getting completely reliable information. The research in this department says that we live in a world where lies of limited consequence are as prevalent as thongs in a hooker’s drawer! There is just no point in asking too many questions since the obvious will eventually make its presence known – if you just let go and let it. You are already doing the best thing you can by taking it nice and slow. Think of romance like a crock-pot, in time it will either be nice and tender or food for Fido.
Have a naughty day!