Davey Crockett and Moving Boxes

Dear Miss Kitty,
I am thinking about moving, and although it isn’t completely because of a guy, he does have more than a little something to do with it. Put it this way, I wanted to anyway and meeting him helped me finally make up my mind. Do you see any potential problems with this if it doesn’t work out?
S.G,



Dear S.G,
There’s nothing quite like getting in touch with your inner Davey Crockett. Grabbing a couple of oars, a canoe and heading off down the river, with nothing in mind but a lazy day on the water. It’s a different story all together if the canoe has a 27 foot moving truck driving in parallel on the streams bank, the destination is known, and one is hoping for a friendly native.

The reasons for moving have to be reasons that stand alone and stand up for what you want your life to be, completely regardless of a relationship. Do people move to be with the one they love? Of course they do. Do people move to be with the one they like and wish that more would transpire? Of course they do. Do people move to stalk someone across the country that they have found on the internet? Of course they do.

Anyone can have apparently sound reasons for doing anything, and in the safe little world that is one’s own reality, it all makes sense. Anything can be rationalized. The point is our own reality has a population of one and always will. Doesn’t it make sense that more than a hope about a relationship should be the motivation for a major life change?

Oh, the kitty is jaded, but then again, jade is a jewel highly valued in the Orient for it’s propensity for bringing luck so it must be good. It’s not hard to convince ourselves of anything, if we paint a picture that looks pretty, even if there isn’t a speck of real to it.

People always tell or show the truth, in one way or another, if one is willing to hear or see it. That goes double for the “truths” we show and tell ourselves. Now is print, in clear black and white, this is what you wrote, “Do you see any potential problems with this if it doesn’t work out?” I don’t think, but you let me know, that you were talking about the move. The move has much more to do with the guy then you are admitting to yourself. If there was enough of a lure without him, that question would never have come up. There would be no question, just moving boxes and more moving boxes.

Perhaps, now is good time to grab a 10-foot white board, lots of color markers and make a good old fashioned pro’s and con’s list - all by yourself. You can erase to your hearts content until what you see, is what you will get. If you still like the picture, take the journey, but take it knowing the lay of the land, as it is, not what you hope it will be.

Darling S, Boys and Girls, Mr.Crockett is quoted as saying, “Be always sure you are right then go, ahead”. Miss Kitty is quoted as saying, “Make sure what is “right” is truly real for you, then go, ahead.”

Have a naughty day!