Arm Candy Agendas and Boy Toy Dilemmas

Dear Miss Kitty,

I am dating a young man and my friends are giving me a hard time. Recently I was called Mrs. Robinson when I walked into a Girls Night that I attend once a month! I was married in my 20's divorced in my 40's and now, and this feels right for now. O.k. or not?

Lucy, SANTA BARBARA

Dear Lucy,

When we wonder if the grass is greener, the blond blonder, the biceps bigger, are we really looking at would have - could have - should have been once upon a time? Are we hoping that we are pushing back more than daylight savings when dating someone younger?

The bronze trophy on the mantle takes more and more buffing to maintain its mirror like surface in which to gaze back to the glory days. Can we see the future if we glaze a tight young tummy with enough oil and stare into it? Does the future look clearer, or is it like a sugary donut, better to look at then actually eat?

Throughout history, successful lovers tend to seek out kindred spirits. Someone from the same tribe. A shared level of culture and maturity. And most of the time, close to the same age. Then again, Sleeping Beauty was one hundred years older than her Prince. Of course, she had the ”Botox” of a lifetime, and a lot of catching up to do, but apparently they stayed together and lived happily ever after.

If life feels like you have been sleeping through it, does it matter, do you care, should anyone mind, if someone enchanting wakes you up? Does it always have to be forever? What about for now? For now can be pretty wonderful. A fresh look at an old world. Isn’t that the reason children inspire adults?

There is always accountability in sharing your time and your bed, no matter who your play date is. Even if you are in the dazed and confused rush of puppy love, you don’t want chewed up shoes and a mess in what was an orderly home. So Mrs. or Mr. Robinson, take your time introducing the new puppy to your world, especially if there are children involved. If you are the puppy, you have a lot to learn. The children will tire you out and you might have to do some serious obedience training before you are really ready to play on the big-dog side of the park.

If life is to be inspiring,it bliss to find our muse Relationships are life’s greatest work. They bring forth our demons and calm our spirits. They challenge us to make sense of all the feelings of which we are capable, and give us the opportunity to grow as nothing else can. Whether your love is younger or older in actual years doesn’t really matter: it's the way you choose to live that love does. In other words, boys and girls, be judicious and mindful in all your choices.

P.S. Make sure the puppy wears tags, just in case your new pet gets carded.
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