Everlasting Love - Does it Really Exist?

Its rose tinted glow is everywhere. The haunting and elusive idea of a love that lasts forever. Why are we willing to give so much to find something that may or may not be real? We say “I do” so easily. I do what exactly? Would someone please clarify just what I am getting into here? May I see the whole list, including what was erased? While you are at it, I also need 3 years’ tax returns and a psychiatric evaluation, since your friends aren’t talking. What if we agree that there are no guarantees and only promise what we really can? Otherwise isn’t it a bit like shopping in a store without price tags? Like making a bed with 50 thread count sheets and expecting to be comfortable?

Let’s start out at the top of the spiral staircase of good intentions. You try on various accessories from the fabulous “L” collection - like, lust, and love. You get beyond the “sign” phase. You know, when EVERYTHING appears to be a message from the Hallmark Gods that you should be together. The fact that you both really like chocolate milk at 2 a.m. is cute, but it isn’t a sign that you should sell your furniture. Besides, in a few years when one or both of you is lactose intolerant, the party is going to be over. Chocolate milk amour aside, you took a right turn after meeting “the family” and arrived at the altar of “Oh my God, what have I done!” The next thing you know, you’re sleeping with a business partner. Instead of après sex pillow talk it’s hashing over the utility bills and who leaves the lights on. Personally, I have never found the sound of an Edison envelope being torn open all that sexy.

No one is born knowing how to cook or be in a relationship. To be a good cook, you are either lucky enough to learn from a master at a young age or you study, take classes and experiment. Want a great relationship that lasts? Study, take classes and experiment! If you believe in true love that lasts a lifetime, you are going to have to commit to some serious fun.

Endless hours and hard work are the norm to be successful in the grown up pay-and-play world. What if we took the time it takes to order a chai latte soy no whip low fat drink and said or did something as sweet and creamy to our beloved in the early morning light? Maybe the day would actually start out hot and steamy, maybe it would even stay that way long after the fancy drink was gone.

Science can’t guarantee that there will be a tomorrow, but we have faith that it will come. Everlasting love is punching the same ticket and it’s a beautiful ride. No baggage allowed, a passport to anywhere and common sense to get you home alone, just in case.

Have a naughty day!